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Tip # 7: Make Her Feel Like the Most Special Girl in the World 

Every girl wants to feel like she’s the most special girl in the whole world. Girls want to feel loved, desired, and special. Something you can do to make your girl feel really special is to compliment her everyday. But don’t just compliment her for the sake of it, be sincere and find things you honestly like about her. Pay attention to little changes she makes to herself such as wearing her hair a different way or using a new perfume, and then compliment her sincerely. However, don’t just focus on her looks, think of the things that you love about her and let her know. It will show her that you really care and pay attention to her.

Your girlfriend wants to feel loved by you, so it is important to tell her that you love her a few times a day. Often a guy will tell his girlfriend that he loves her once, and then he assumes that she knows how he feels about her. However, this is not true, as your girlfriend needs regular assurance that she’s your special girl and that you love her with all your heart. So let her know either by just saying “I love you,” or by leaving a note or card for her or sending her flowers. The little things you do to show your love really count. It is also important to your girlfriend that you show her affection at home and in public. This includes cuddling and kissing, as well as back massages or playing with her hair. You should also pay more attention to her than others in public by looking at her often, holding her hand, and putting your arm around her. This shows her that she is the most important person to you.

To be a good boyfriend you should show an interest in her and the things she likes, such as her hobbies, favorite movies and music. You don’t have to force yourself to go on weekly shopping trips to the mall with her, but maybe you could go with her once a month. Once in a while you should also let her choose the movie you two watch, or take her to see the latest chick flick at the movies that she’s dying to see. She will appreciate you for being so kind and thoughtful, and she will probably go with you to watch the latest action movie. All of these things let her know that she is the most important person to you.

Tip # 6: Love Her for Who She Is 

Girls are multi-faceted and have many sides. We have a glamorous side, a casual side, a sporty side, a cool side etc. We love dressing up, primping and getting all glamorous for a night out. But often a girl just wants to lie on the couch or in bed wearing her favorite Hanson/ Jonas Brothers/ Bon Jovi (depending on her age) T-Shirt, with no make-up, her hair in a ponytail, and watch repeats of The Hills. Your girlfriend wants you to love her at her most natural because that is the real her. She wants to know that you see who she really is, and that you love her not in spite of it, but because of it. If she gets sick, she wants to know that you will hold her hair back while she throws up, and make her chicken soup. She wants to know that you will still love her after seeing her at her worst.

It is important for a guy to accept his girlfriend the way she is, for the good and the bad. No-one is perfect, and if you want her to love you for you, you have to do the same for her.

Your girlfriend will be thrilled if you tell her the little things you love about her, like the dimple in her cheek, or the way she always talks to puppies and children in the street. Also tell her that you love her “flaws,” like how she’s stubborn or has a fiery nature. By complimenting her “negatives” or “flaws,” you will show her that you love her for who she is and that she is perfect to you. Your girlfriend knows that she is not perfect, but she wants to be perfect to you.

* Stay tuned for Tip # 7!

Tip # 5: Listen To Her and Really Try To Understand Her 

It is a know fact that women love to talk. It’s the way we bond, show love, and express our feelings. However, men are often confused when women talk, because they only talk to convey or gather information, whereas women talk for several reasons.

According to John Gray, author of the bestselling relationship book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, women talk for a variety of reasons. There are four common reasons that women talk:

The first reason is the simplest, it is to convey or gather information. This is generally the only reason a man talks.

The second is to explore and discover what it is she has to say. Unlike a man who stops talking to figure out inside what he wants to say, she talks to think out loud. Sometimes what she says may seem dramatic or crazy, but keep in mind that she is talking in order to process her thoughts and feelings, so don’t take everything she says literally. Like if she says that she hates her boss or that maybe she should quit her job, don’t automatically freak out and try to talk some sense into her, as she is probably just releasing and processing her feelings.

The third common reason that a woman talks is to feel better and more centred when she is upset. When a woman is upset she talks to release her pent-up feelings, and by talking she purges her feelings and undergoes a cleansing. However, a man stops talking when he is upset. He usually wants to be left alone to cool off and process what has happened by himself. So if she is upset, allow her to vent to you and talk as much as she wants. After a while, she will get it all out and feel better. You do not even have to respond to what she says, just show her that you’re listening by making eye contact, nodding, holding her hand etc. She will love you for being so understanding and for being there for her. You are helping her by being a human soundboard where she can bounce her thought and feelings off of.

The fourth common reason that women talk is to create intimacy. Through sharing her inner feelings she is able to know her loving self. Unlike a man who stops talking to find himself again and fears that too much intimacy will rob him of himself, a woman discovers herself through talking.

You should also take note and remember the things she tells you about herself and her life, such as her dog’s name from when she was young, or her favorite movie. Recalling a detail in the future will show her that you really listen to her.

It is obvious that talking plays a very important part in a woman’s life, so be understanding and patient when your girlfriend starts opening up. Just like with anything in life, practice makes perfect, and the same is true for listening. Women and men speak different languages so it takes time for us to truly understand each other. Take the time to really listen to her and understand what she is saying and the emotions behind her words. She will appreciate you so much if you do this for her.

* Stay tuned for Tip # 6!

Tip # 4: Be Loyal, Faithful, and Honest

 Once you are in a committed relationship with your girlfriend, it is crucial that you are loyal, faithful, and honest. It is important to be loyal to your girl, and not talk to your friends about what goes on in your relationship. You should also never bad mouth her to anyone and always take her side if she is having an argument with a friend or family member, or is upset with a coworker.

A perfect boyfriend is always faithful to his girlfriend. You should never ever cheat on her and always be faithful to her. There is nothing more hurtful than to be cheated on by someone you love. If you decide that you want to be with someone else, then be respectful and let her know that you would like to break-up.

A lot of guys are scared of confrontation or talking about feelings, so they will just avoid a girl if they want to break-up and hope that the relationship fades away. Often guys think they’re being “kind” by not telling girls to their faces that they aren’t into them anymore so they won’t hurt their feelings. They think it’s easier if they just let the relationship fade away like it never happened. This relationship amnesia may be easier for the guy, but it’s harder for the girl. He gets to start a new life, like he joined the witness protection program, while she wonders if maybe he really did join the witness protection program, and that’s why he hasn’t called. If you are man enough to tell her the truth, then she can get over the relationship much easier and faster and make some positive changes for her next relationship. It’s better for a girl to deal with the hurt immediately rather than months later when it will hurt more after all the lies and wasted time.

A perfect boyfriend is always honest, whether it’s about his feelings, or about his behavior and actions. The only time it is acceptable to tell a white lie is if she asks if her bum looks big or if she looks fat. Then you may hide your true feelings in order to spare her feelings.

* Stay tuned for Tip # 5!

Tip # 3: Be a Gentleman

It’s a myth that girls like bad boys who treat them poorly. A girl likes a guy who is a gentleman and who knows how to treat her right. A gentleman is romantic. You can be romantic by organizing dates, planning trips, giving her flowers, buying her thoughtful gifts, cooking her dinner, and writing her poems or love letters. Girls love romance, and she will really appreciate your romantic gestures. If you are romantically challenged, then watch a few chick flicks for some ideas.

A gentleman knows how to treat his lady. You should pull her chair out and open doors for her. Even though she may have a good job and make her own money, you should pay for meals and movies, at least for the first few months of dating. After that you can go Dutch most times and pay on special occasions.

To be a gentleman you should be empathetic, encourage and support her, notice how she’s feeling everyday and comment to her, and take her side when she’s upset with someone no matter if she is right or wrong. To be a gentleman you should show her the utmost respect, and be devoted to her and only her. To be a gentleman you should also be strong yet gentle. It is important to be the man in the relationship by doing the “manly” jobs around the house such as taking the trash out, mowing the lawn, painting the house, and moving heavy boxes. But it is also important that you have a sensitive side and connect with your girl on an emotional level. You should try and love her family and friends, and if you really can’t stand them then at least try to get on with them or hide your dislike of them.

* Stay tuned for Tip # 4!