Pamela in Pink

Take this simple quiz adapted from the book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. Give your guy one point for each of these 16 characteristics:

1. Eager to see you

2. Reluctant to leave you

3. Wants regular consistent contact, asks for dates

4. Interested in you and your life

5. Wants to be helpful

6. Is verbally and physically affectionate

7. Wants to be romantic and sexual with you

8. Texts, emails or calls regularly

9. Acts like you are very special; doesn’t really want to date others

10. If you are dating other men–willing to hang in there

11. Becoming more attentive and loving over time

12. Becoming more open to sharing his feelings and thoughts

13. Becoming more open to sharing his living space

14. Becoming more open to sharing his social life with friends and family members.

15. Saying he loves you

16. Saying he wants a future with you

Be really honest with yourself as you rate your guy. When in doubt, ask your closest friends to help you. If your man has a score of 4 or less, it probably indicates that he is just not that into you. If he gets 5-10 points the dude may have possibilities. 11 or more means he just may be the One. Look for more of these qualities over time to make a clearer assessment.

Bottom line: if you want to find the One, look for a guy who provides regular and consistent contact that gets better over time. You should find yourself continually surprised at how he fills your needs to be chosen, appreciated, romanced and celebrated for who you are. Envision this kind of love and choose guys who are that into you.